A husband comes home from a business trip and waited at the airport for his wife to pick him up. She never showed so he took a taxi home only to find that his wife wasn’t there either. Thinking this was a little strange and out of the ordinary he called her on the phone and left her this voice message. “Hey just calling to check in and let you know I arrived home safe, I guess we must have missed each other at the airport. Anyway, I am home and can’t wait to see you. It is a little odd that you are not here and it makes me wonder if you received the e-mail that I sent you telling you my trip went longer than planned. Now that I think of it, when I sent you the text when I was about to board the plane you didn’t respond which was somewhat unusual Oh well, I guess I will see you soon”.
The wife called her husband back on his cell phone while he was in the shower and she left him this voice message. Oh that’s funny; I guess you didn’t see my recent post on Facebook where I changed my status to single and that I had moved. Oh well, you should be receiving a Fed-Ex from my attorney soon. I wish you all the best though.”
Could this above story be you, or someone you know?
Is social media destroying our ability to engage and talk to each other? How many times in my business do I hear I’m not a phone person, just send me a text or email it’s the best way to communicate with me. I am not advocating that we cease from using the technology that helps us improve our efficiency, but I do think that we should not allow it to replace our inate desire to socialize with one another.
The old fashion land phone line is becoming obsolete in many of our homes today. Just ask yourself how many times in a week do you get a personal call from a friend or family member and not a telemarketer or a solicitor? I have heard from some people that they actually sit across the room from someone else and text or email them instead of talking to them? That seems crazy but it happens. I know the above story about the couple is a “what if” scenario, but could this really happen?
In my opinion how can we call it social media when it is really seems to be more anti-social? If you rely on texting or e-mail as your only form of communication then how can you tell in reading a text or email what the emotion of the person is that is sending the text or e-mail. I have heard of many cases where people have gotten mad at each other because of the way a text is written where the receiving end takes the text or e-mail the wrong way.
I actually heard of this scenario where a family member said to another family member; “Wow it’s really good to hear you and see your face today as it has been a very long time since we have seen one another.” The family member said; “What do you mean we text and email all the time?” I recently read an article where a 13 year old daughter texted her mom from her bedroom to tell her she wanted cinnamon rolls for breakfast. Now how’s that for room service! I have even been guilty myself of taking the time to text a message that took longer to type out than it would have to actually pick up the phone and have a conversation with the person. But let’s face it we do it all the time.
I guess I am just saying that with all of the technology that exists to make us more efficient, let’s just try to not lose sight of our basic need to socialize in a personal and real way. I think there is a real danger with someone who loses their ability to communicate with other people? Is it possible that the young teenager of today will be so use to texting as their form of communication that when it comes time to go for a job interview and articulate why they should be the one for the job, will they struggle with the face to face communication and prefer to get a job through texting or email.
Is it all bad? Of course it isn’t. There are times when we do not have a choice but to communicate through our personal electronic devices, but just like everything else social media should be done in moderation. This way we don’t lose sight of the things that differentiate from the machines and technologies that we have invented to help us be more efficient in order to enjoy our lives as fellow human beings.
Back in 2008 Dentyne put out a campaign called make face to face time and it went like this:
“power down. Log off. Unplug.
Have mercy on your thumbs
Browse the world wide something else.
Send some not-so instant messages,
Undo, hit cancel, Be together,
Make face time!”
I think this is a great idea! Let’s take the media out of social media and become more social, and if you do maybe you’ll pick up a few more friends to add to your social media list.